Just recently I went to a wedding and
it was really lovely. Ceremony was a tad bit too long and I think
the priest was more narcissistic than me, and I can be a little too
narcissistic. Just blame it on my high self esteem. Anyways the
reception was nice, however the theme was purple and I really don't
like purple. I'd overlooked that for the sake of someone's happiest
day.
It was my whole entire family that was
invited including the dramatic one. I was hoping that he wouldn't
cause a scene, knowing his emotional state. It was great, up until
one of the people at the table threw a napkin at him in jest. This
person we knew since we were nearly in grade school. I never liked
this person, because he was such a jerk to me and everyone in my
family. The 21 year old of the family had more of a grudge because
of the supposed bulling past. Of course my 21 year old brother is
the most sensitive child of the group. I use to be shy and effected
a lot, but I grew a harden shell. I also learned how to retaliate
when I needed. I don't like bullies and I understand my brother's
predicament. With my knowledge of his jerkish past, I try to put
things aside for the sake of the wedding. You know it's someone's
special day and why ruin it. So like the adult person that I am, I
try not to make a scene and enjoy myself, which I was doing until the
napkin incident. He then became upset and started to tell my mother
that this certain person was doing it again, being the bully that he
is. By brother then listed the past things that this person did.
Now remind you I knew that this certain person did do it in jest,
however I don't think that he would get a rise out of the most
dramatic person in my family. My mother told him to stop and calm
down, but my brother couldn't. I know that he couldn't let things go
for one night. My brother left the room in anger and went to sit in
one of the chairs in the lobby.
Everything was calm again until my
mother and I got out of the bathroom. The eldest brother ask to talk
to my mother. I knew where this was going, so I just went to our
table. A minute later my 17 year old brother came in and told us
that he was taking my mother home. Then at the car in the parking
lot of the reception the eldest and the youngest brother got into a
fist fight. The youngest trying to protect my mother from the wrath
of the 21 year old dramatic one. We pull out of the parking lot and
went home.
So in all of this I sat in the car on
the ride home think about this incident. I wanted to do a blog on
this to show you that in a time of happiness you really should cast
aside differences for one day so that others can have a good time.
The past is the past, and letting your grudge with someone cease for
a few hours as you dance on a dance floor. It's not good to let your
emotions build up, however it's not ok to be the dramatic asshole in
the party. What my brother demonstrated is that you don't cause a
scene at a party just because someone you hate is there. There are
many other people that you may know, go and have fun with them and
ignore that person for one night. Be as adult as you can when it
comes to someone's ex boyfriend/girlfriend, ex-friend, or someone
that has bullied you in the past. If that person is causing the
drama then leave the situation. If there is security and someone is
itching for a fight, call them. Most of us can be an adult and be
mature. We don't like it, but it's a must for situations like this or
like paying your bills and going to work. Just remember, there is a
time for being an adult and being mature. Then there is a time to
unleash your wild childish side.
